I hope your week has been less stressful and fantastic despite the traffic everywhere in Lagos, poor light situation and ‘artificial fuel scarcity’. *big sigh*
Today, on our series, “Warning Signs”, I bring you a new topic- Memory Loss and Forgetfulness.
Memory Loss and Forgetfulness are not things to be joked with as they may indicate possible symptoms of serious medical issues. In relationships, however, memory loss and forgetfulness are more likely to be warning signs of your partner losing interest, which in its own right is a serious issue.
How The Brain Works (According To Me)
Our brain has a way of storing an infinite amount of information but only a finite amount can be stored where easily accessible. Imagine that your brain is a big room with files arranged through its length and breadth with you sitting at a desk right in the middle. From your seat you have easy access to certain files, while the rest are out of arms reach. Therefore, logically, you put information you consider important close to you for easy access. This is, somewhat, how the brain works with memories and information.
What Does It Mean?
The moment your partner begins to forget basic information about you and your relationship, it can be a sign that your file has been replaced by another one he/she feels is more important. Now, you cannot immediately jump to conclusion on this because if your partner is a very busy person or going through a trying time, your file might have been replaced to make space for something else…….temporarily. If your partner forgets your wedding anniversary, you can even pardon, but if he forget your middle name, maiden name, date of birth, etc., then wahala dey.
How To Deal With A Forgetting Partner
If you suspect that your file is getting relegated to the back shelf, it is time to make some moves. Try and rekindle the romance in your relationship by engaging in activities that you both enjoyed when you were dating or newly wed. Try and cook more for your husband instead of buying take outs or letting the maid do the cooking, give your wife your ‘A’ game all the time and she will be too dizzy to think of anything else but you.
As always, these warning signs are a guide and should be taken as such. Every relationship is different and only the person wearing the shoe knows exactly where it pinches.
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