Ope has never been physically abusive with Seun, but he constantly puts her down, especially in front of their friends. He tells her she is fat and needs to lose weight. He constantly compares her with her female friends. Is this abuse?
Yes, this is abuse. To abuse is to treat a person or animal with cruelty or violence, repeatedly or regularly.
There are two major types of Abuse
- Physical abuse
- Emotional/Psychological abuse
Other types of abuse include;
- Drug abuse
- Financial abuse
- Cultural violence
- Spiritual violence, etc.
The focus, of this write up, will be on Physical and Psychological/Emotional abuse.
In a relationship, it is easier for a person to tell when they are being physically abused because of the drama it comes with than when psychologically/emotionally abused. If you are afraid of your partner, constantly watching what you say or do around your partner, chances are that you are in an abusive relationship.
Domestic violence is an example of physical abuse. This occurs when one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control the other person.
Examples of physical abuse include, but are not limited to, the following:
- Scratching, punching, pinching, arm-twisting, biting, strangling or kicking.
- Throwing something such as a phone, book, shoe or plate.
- Pulling hair.
- Shoving/pushing or pulling.
- Grabbing clothing.
- Using a gun, knife, box cutter, bat, mace or other weapon.
- Deliberate exposure to severe weather or inappropriate room temperatures.
- Smacking a person’s bottom without their permission or consent.
- Forcing a person to have sex or perform a sexual act.
- Grabbing a person’s face to make them look at you.
- Grabbing a person to prevent them from leaving or forcing them to go somewhere. (Source: www.loveisrespect.org and www.gov.nl.ca).
Let’s talk about physical abuse in relationships-
Physical abuse in a relationship/marriage can happen both ways. That is, a woman could also abuse her boyfriend/husband. However, there are more cases of men abusing their girlfriends/wives. I will, therefore, be focusing on men abusing women.
To be continued…